|Guys, if you want to get here, then you'll have to put in the work.|
Well, I'm going to make some suggestions and give some Valentine's Day dating ideas to some of the guys out there to help you out! Am I an expert? Absolutely not. However, I will do my best to hopefully trigger an idea that you can run with and possibly use.
The first thing to consider is: just how well do you know her? It's awkward to meet someone new around Valentine's Day because you don't know her expectations of you in regards to the holiday. What if your first date happens to fall on V-Day?
You don't want to go all-out for a woman you just met at the coffee shop a week ago, so you have to evaluate what works. If you do too much, then it may creep her out. Or, it could do the opposite and make her look at you as a sugar daddy. So, try to find a balance. If you've never been out with her before and you don't know too much about her, then I would suggest a double date. No, not the traditional "double date." I mean Valentine's lunch and Valentine's dinner (if possible). For lunch, I'd suggest an inexpensive, but decent spot (without the rush) and maybe bring her a single rose to acknowledge that she's your Valentine.
This is when you want to get all of the ice-breaking out of the way and try to get to know her as much as you can on an hour lunch break. When it's night and the setting is somewhat romantic, the mood and newness can cause some reluctance to open up in conversation. However, in the brightness of the mid-afternoon in a lunch setting, people tend to be more comfortable and forthcoming.
This will allow you to pick a more romantic spot for the evening. Avoid the movies with a newbie. You can't talk in a movie, so you're basically wasting two hours (three hours if you're seeing Django Unchained) of not being able to get face-to-face conversation. Movies are for couples. You're not a couple yet. I would suggest dinner somewhere there's live music. Since you've already gotten to know her a little at lunch, you won't have to worry about talking over the music to ask her about the things she likes to do.
|Break the ice at lunch, if possible. That makes dinner more comfortable.|
|"Oh, no! I'm missing Olivia Pope and President Fitz!"|
|"Nothing between us but air and opportunity! Gimme the wet mouth, girl!"|
But, for long term couples, there are some pitfalls that guys need to avoid: Don't make it like any other date. If you and your lady go out to eat regularly, then don't take her to a normal spot (unless requested) on Valentine's Day. Do some research and find something different and special. Those who live in bigger cities absolutely have no excuse for not doing this. And if you have the time, then maybe a trip should be on the menu to get away from it all.
Your main job is to make the evening unlike any recent evening you've spent with her. She's already yours, so just show her how much you appreciate it. The best thing to do is go back to the basics (although you should already be doing them).
Open doors, put your hand in the small of her back and guide her through the door you've opened, pull out her chair, give her your jacket if it's cold, allow her to order first, compliment her appearance, look into her eyes when she speaks (or when she doesn't), leave room for dessert, pay for the meal, find somewhere romantic to park (if it's not too late) like a riverfront or an open area (if the stars are out).
Your Valentine's date with your long term significant other should seem like a perfect first date.
Again, I'm not expert in the matter, but I do know how to make a woman feel like a woman. Good luck, fellas! Ladies, if your man needs a little push in the right direction, then accidentally leave this blog post on your laptop where he can see it! :)
|Your date should look like this the entire time or you're not doing something right.|